And for the next six months, this became a daily routine, as soon as I got home, the Stalker’s generator and boom box went on and smoke started flooding into my yard. And concurrent with this, the active stalking started.
The Stalker had always roamed the street at night, shining a flashlight and laser into the lots up and down my street, but now, all of his attention was on me and my yard and house. Several times a day, he passed by my place, stopping at my driveway entrance for several minutes at a time, staring into my place and sometimes taking pictures. At night, he regularly walked by and shined a flashlight onto my house.
When I would come home, he habitually came out of his lot, walked out into the street and stared at me. He would then return home, to blast his music and start his weed and trash burning. He also started following me around, everywhere I went.
He bought a motorcycle and drove it by my place repeatedly.
He parked the motorcycle at my driveway entrance, then walked away, leaving it there for several minutes.
He repeatedly made U-turns in front of my driveway entrance.
He repeatedly drove slowly past my place, then suddenly blasted off.
He started constantly driving by and honking his horn.
He started following me around Ocean View, wherever I went, up and down Aloha Boulevard, to Ace Hardware and Malama market.
Whenever I would go out into town, he would get on his motorcycle and follow me or look for me. He was always trying to show himself to me, waiting for me to pass by, waving to me, pointing to me, or driving towards me and staring at me.
Dozens of times, as soon as I would come home, he would suddenly appear on his motorcycle, like he had been waiting and watching for me.
He would stand on the street corner, waiting for me to come home, then walked past my place, and immediately started blasting his music and burning leaves and trash.
He started coming to my work and hung out there for hours at a time, wandering around the store aimlessly, loitering for minutes at a time wherever my wife and I were, while staring at us and pretending to shop.
He left a box of candy in our yard, like he was in love with us, like he was our friend.
This shit went on for six months, and I never yelled at him, never confronted him and never called the police or fire department on him. I wanted to be a more decent person than him and to set an example of peace and non-retaliation. I figured that he would eventually get tired of the stalking and leave me alone. But that never happened.
After that first six months of his ongoing stalking, and me just ignoring and avoiding him, he approached me as I was arriving home. He said that he wanted to be friends. I didn’t even bring up the stalking, I just stayed casual and disinterested, told him I was busy, and went into the house. I saw no point in engaging with him, confronting him or even telling him what he already knew he was doing. He knew what he was doing, and yet he pretended that the stalking, burning and blasting never occurred.
A few months after that, I was in my yard, doing gardening, and he came out of his van, that was still on the street, and walked up to me near the property line, and said, “how’s it going?”. I then told him that I want nothing to do with him, don’t talk to us and just leave us alone. He said that he just wanted to be friends. I told him again that I wanted nothing to do with him. He then started yelling at me, telling me that I was rude. I told him to go away, and he responded by yelling that he wasn’t going anywhere, that he had a Constitutional right to stand wherever he wanted and to yell at me as much as he wanted and say whatever he wanted to, and that there was nothing I could do about it. So I called 911, and told the operator that my neighbor was yelling at me, that I wanted the police sent out and that my neighbor is stalking me. He heard me talking to the operator, and when I used the word, “stalking”, he started yelling, “STALKING, STALKING?”, and, “I JUST WANTED TO BE FRIENDS”.
So the police came out, and I told them the whole months-long story of the creep following us around, walking and driving by our place, shining a flashlight into our yard and windows, the blasting music and burning weeds, the coming to our work and watching us, watching and waiting for us on our street, and always showing himself to us. The creep then approached the police in front of my house and started yelling at them that he just wanted to be friends, that there was something wrong with me and that I was acting like a scared kid who got beat up in school a lot. The police listened to his ranting and raving for about 20 minutes, they seemed to not understand how out of line and irrational he was. But they eventually got him back in his yard and settled down.
The police then came back and told me that I should get a restraining order against him. And they said that if that guy acted up again, to call them. And an hour later, the Stalker was in his yard, yelling at me repeatedly, “I’LL GET YOU, I’LL GET YOU”. So I called the police again, and they called the creep and got him to settle down. They also said that if he made threats like that again, that they would arrest him. They got him to settle down for the night.
But the next day, as soon as I arrived home after work, the Stalker was back to doing his usual stuff, running the noisy generator, blasting music and burning weeds and trash.
So I filed a restraining order against him. And on the day of the hearing, a few hours before court, he was standing in front of my driveway, staring in. At the hearing, he denied everything, told the judge that he had cancer, and that he might not be able to make it to the actual trial. The judge told him to call the court if he couldn’t make it next time, and she issued a temporary restraining order against him, until the actual trial, a few weeks later. And when I got home from court that day, I saw that the Stalker had left an empty cardboard box in my driveway, near where he had been standing. EVERYTHING IS A GAME, a psychological head fuck to play on people and snicker about.
A few weeks later, my wife and I were back in court for the actual trial. But the Stalker didn’t show up, so we won the case by default. The restraining order is from November of 2023 until November of 2026.
But despite getting the restraining order, only two things changed, the Stalker stopped coming to my work, and he stopped shining lights into my yard. But EVERYTHING ELSE CONTINUED ON AS BEFORE, the smoke, the noise blasting, the walking by my place with and without his boom box, the driving by while honking his horn, the searching for us when we left home, following us home, and always showing himself to us when we arrived home.
The active stalking continues to this day, 24 hours a day, we are always under observation, always subject to amplified noise, music, talk shows, electronic noise and conversations about sex acts, body parts and poop.